I'm sorry you're going through this Horn. I can't imagine the multiple emotions and thoughts you are going through. ((HUGS)). My initial thoughts on your wife's whereabouts is that she got drunk and is sleeping it off at a girlfriend's place. Perhaps her thoughtlessness is the result of her drunken state. My advice is to keep an eye on your sobriety. I know that if I were in your situation, I would be tempted to drink AT my husband. Please don't do that. You can get through this.