Hi and welcome to SR!!! I understand what you are going through. I've been in the same mind frame many times. Like gelfing said threats usally don't work. If they did my H would have been sober 10 years ago. The A in your life has to want to quit. We can't do it for them. All I can add is to try to focus on you. I know how hard that is but it is the only way to regain your sanity. Read books, attend alanon, keep coming here. We all understand your struggle, we've been there. Just know you are not alone, we are here for you. With love, Kerry