Thanks everyone for your words of support. There was a lot of unresolved issues with him. I think I am just in a state of shock. He has 4 wives. One is dead from alcoholism. At least the first had the decency to contact me. It was just so sudden. He always looked so healthy. I guess cancer can creep up to anyone. I feel sorry for his children step child and associated family. I was just a trouble making blotch to his second and fourth wives.