Originally Posted by Cosima11

Just wanted to say I can totally relate to your post. I feel like a lot of my drinking relationships were super co-dependent and I just cannot imagine a healthy or normal friendship including endless guilt trips and manipulation about needing to hang out constantly or mesh our lives together in ridiculous ways. Still kind of surrounding myself with drinkers but not partaking, our priorities are not the same and that's abundantly clear now. Learning it's true you have to surround yourself with people who are doing what you want to be doing.. but still struggling to figure out how to let sober friendships grow organically. Going with the sibling comment I am the oldest, so I'm extremely loyal and protective of people I choose to be close to but that's always come with the price of self-sacrifice.

Bimini, what did you decide to do after real estate if you don't mind me asking? If serving is like speed dating real estate is like marriage and yeah sometimes I feel like I don't know if it's such a good idea because I have a deep seated fear of commitment thank you very much, lol. I wanted to learn the ropes and then move on to flipping houses but I'm realizing even that is going to require a huge amount of networking and maintaining of long term relationships. But I'll never know until I try so that's what I've decided to do at this point.