I think this is a great question and has been very important in my sobriety. I prefer acceptance over surrender, but its very similar. Once you accept or surrender the fight is over. Until then it is a tug of war between your AV and the rational part of our brain that knows we need to stop drinking. I fought it tooth and nail for months. I saw as a flaw in my "perfect" self. It was difficult, but then I finally accepted I am losing this battle and will certainly lose the war. So I stopped fighting and got busy with sobriety.