I think this is difficult for a lot of people. What I was asked to give up in my professional life by a number of sponsors was more than I was willing to do. They needed that as a sign of surrender. Since I could not give it, I could not do all of the AA program.
There a a lot of good things in AA. If surrender is not something you are capable and willing to do, then do not. Just take the things that are helpful for you from the program.