Sounds like it's time to make some life changes, laughingcrying. You've done all you can. Emotional abuse is never okay.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Please know that you're not alone here. Lots of our members understand and can relate to your exhaustion.
We have an awesome Friends and Family Forum. If you do some reading there, I'm sure you will find women/men that share your experience.
Lots of good reading in the Sticky's located just above the forum.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/ https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tance-abusers/