Hi Katzen ... hope you're ok. I've been reflecting on this thread.
I don't believe you intended to come across like you really thought you were 'better' than that couple. You seemed to be trying to capture a train of thought you were going down, like an AV stream of consciousness thing (warts-and-all), perhaps recognising also that it wasn't completely a compassionate way of thinking.
We can ALL be quite judgey at times, even if we know that's against our better nature.
Anyway, as I said, I hope you're OK. Let us know how you went with the cans ... hope you poured them out.