No one has their crap together. That’s an illusion. Be open-minded.
And 4Loko is horrible, causes much misery. I want to vomit even thinking about it. Sure, causes a cheap buzz, but not any kind of buzz I’d ever want. I’d much prefer not vomiting and diarrhea of the mouth for walks on the beach with my son if I want to feel “high.”
Be safe and sober! It’s a lot better. Focus on you. Dump them out. You won’t regret it.