Thread: Me? Agitated?
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Old 10-25-2005, 10:23 AM
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elizabeth1979
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Me? Agitated?

Spent all day yesterday wondering what I was doing by staying in this relationship.

Came home, asked him for some space and he gave it to me, he stayed in the bedroom, until I felt like talking.

When I finally felt like talking to him I told him very calmly the following:

I am questioning my decision to stay in the relationship.
Im not sure I want to live my life like this forever.
I deserve better than this.
I hate being lied to and while I dont believe a word out of his mouth, Its not very fun to be in a relaltionship with no trust. I told him to just keep his damn mouth shut please instead of lying, just dont even say anything.
I am not proud of him or his decisions (no job, no recovery)


He basically had nothing to say, said he was tired of my bitching and thats why he lies to me bc I am such a bitch that he doesnt want to tell me the truth becuase i will just get mad.
Said he wont recover unless I promise to never have a drink.
The he said maybe he should just move out.

My response was. "Maybe that would be best".

So, here is what I am prepared to do if he wants to work it out.
Nothing.

Ive done all the bending I care to do. I am not Gumby, and will not bend anymore. He can live with it, or live somewhere else. I am over it.
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