tomsteve

trust my gut instinct. some good stuff in the chapter,"working with others" gained from experience.
-If he does not want to see you, never force yourself upon him.
-If you are satisfied that he is a real alcoholic, begin to dwell on the hopeless feature of the malady.
-Continue to speak of alcoholism as an illness, a fatal malady.
-Outline the program of action,
-If he is not interested in your solution, if he expects you to act only as a banker for his financial difficulties or a nurse for his sprees, you may have to drop him until he changes his mind. This he may do after he gets hurt some more.
-If he is sincerely interested and wants to see you again, ask him to read this book in the interval.
-If he thinks he can do the job in some other way, or prefers some other spiritual approach, encourage him to follow his own conscience
-Do not be discouraged if your prospect does not respond at once. Search out another alcoholic and try again. You are sure to find someone desperate enough to accept with eagerness what you offer. We find it a waste of time to keep chasing a man who cannot or will not work with you. If you leave such a person alone, he may soon become convinced that he cannot recover by himself. To spend too much time on any one situation is to deny some other alcoholic an opportunity to live and be happy. One of our Fellowship failed entirely with his first half dozen prospects. He often says that if he had continued to work on them, he might have deprived many others, who have since recovered, of their chance.
-Though an alcoholic does not respond, there is no reason why you should neglect his family.
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Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house.