My exgf was a drinker,so when I got sober she would 'justify' her drunken behaivor on my bad antics while drinking. Basically blaming me for her drinking. LOL Anyways..only time and continued sobriety will allow others to forgive your past. I've been 'better' for about 18mo now and I'm just building back some trust from friends and business partners. They still like to remind me of some dumb crap I did while drinking,but it's begining to lessen now. I just own my past and continue to stay 'better'. If they want to forgive..cool. If not..I understand. I know that's a bit different in a marriage,but it's the same principle. My relationship did not survive my getting sober.