There are two things at play here. You can and do have full control of what you do when you feel anxious and stressed. There is/are lots of great advice and support across the site to help you find better ways of dealing with this emotion rather than drinking.
In terms of your Husband I don’t know enough to advise appropriately. How long have you stayed sober to prove change? Does he drink? Is he constantly resentful or are there certain situations that bring his feelings to the surface?
For me personally when I have made attempts to get sober I get very frustrated and annoyed at anyone who doesn’t look forward and brings up my past. After many relapses I have accepted that some of the things I have said and done don’t get fixed and wiped clean just because I am feeling positive and not drinking for now. It takes time and consistency to prove this to others. Stick with it, be consistent and put sobriety first xx