Originally Posted by
daredevil 
dwtbd: and in the case of a calamity. Why wouldn't you pick up?
Not directed at me, but I had a calamity this week. Did I pick up: No. would I have picked up having performed a CBA, probably, for the oblivion, to turn the devastating feelings of loss off.
Thankfully, I’ve the ultimate power of NO: I will never drink again, NOW, and never change my mind. So when I awake tomorrow, my sub-conscious mind will have been busy during the evening, processing my grief, as it has the last few days, hopefully coming to terms with it. Instead of drowning out my feelings and going into denial and could’ve, should’ve, would'ves.
If I’d done a CBA, I’d probably have determined that I’m justified for drinking myself into oblivion because my CBA says I warrant it to drown out my sorrows! No. No can do. I have a Big Plan that I’ll never drink again, thankfully, so I’ll awake tomorrow, able and ready to deal, properly, and humanly, with my loss