Atlantis...….
Here are some of the things that have helped others who have been in your same shoes.....things that have been tried and true for thousands of others who have come to this forum, over the years...…
1. Individual counseling. Making your own self the main focus.
2. Educating yourself about alcoholism/drug addiction. Knowledge is power...and, there is sooo much to know!
3. A real life support system...in addition to your counselor. I think this might be the most healing of all....it will increase your self esteem and your self confidence and feelings of security.
4. Read "Co-Dependence No More". It is the most recommended book, on this forum.
5. Attend alanon or similar group on regular basis
***For the education part...mentioned above...the following link to our extensive library of excellent articles on alcoholism/addiction and the effects on the loved ones is an excellent place to start. There are over 100 articles from those who have been in your shoes. Enough for you to read one every single day...lol...
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)
You can benefit from knowing your (and his) rights. The following link is to a website that is educational in nature, It is sorted by state!
It can help you to organize your thoughts and questions....
www.womansdivorce.com
***You cannot count on your husband for your and your children's future welfare. Y ou will have to count on yourself....We have no control over other people...only ourselves. We all have to attend to our own happiness and well being....and you children w ill be counting on you...the most stable parent....
The more you reach out for help and use it...the better you will be, and the easier this journey will be for you.....