Old 05-22-2018, 07:40 AM
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Spahappy
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Akrasia, my therapist gave me some advice that might be helpful here. For context, my AH had told me that he wanted to start drinking again after a period of sobriety and I was deciding what to do.

My therapist said that I had to decide how many more cycles of his drinking I could go through. She pointed out (correctly) that I knew exactly how it would go, that he would moderate for a few weeks and then would be right back to his terrible bingeing, drinking all day, alcoholic behavior. She said that we had already been through this over and over and the result was the same each time. So I had to decide if I wanted to jump back on the merry go round and go through all of the frustration and heartache and misery again. Or if I had hit my bottom and was truly done with accepting that behavior in my life.

You need to make the same decision.
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