Nothing you do can make him "happy". It's not you, it's him. Just take care of yourself. You can't "confront" or talk about anything when an A is drinking. It could be dangerous for you. But walking around on eggshells waiting for someone to fall asleep and hoping that the floor doesn't creek and wake them up is a horrible way to live. My AH isn't abusive in the same sense, but I know what it does to me.