I just ordered this book - I think it will help me alot.
Alanon was not for me - I was shocked the first time I went to a meeting at how old and "out of date" the literature was. Nothing they gave me was updated or created since the 60's. I have been lurking on this site for awhile, and I wish I had come across this sooner!
I too have not found any of the old wisdom - "rock bottom" "enable" etc. helpful.
Thank you so much for posting this!