Welcome ticktock..
Sorry for the situation you are in.
To me it definitely sounds like your husband has a drinking problem, normal drinkers don't hang out or crave for their next drink.
You may find the support here in friends and family section that you aren't getting from your friends... I think a lot of people don't uunderstand the differing scale of addiction so don't recognise when there is a problem..
Without knowing you I think it's safe to say that you're not going insane..
Good luck.