He's deflecting and blaming......no good therapist would do marriage counseling with an active A...you are absolutely right in your thinking.
And I agree with the others - you two are at an impasse. He doesn't want to stop drinking you don't want to live with the drinking.
I did think of one thing though my T at one point said he could see both of us to help us get to a point of being ready to divorce so we would feel psychologically ready....but that was only once he was sober and at that point he knew (even though he was denying it) the split was inevitable (I'd made up my mind)....so I don't think that would work with an active A.