Originally Posted by
Sohard 
So, it's hard to picture what I'm trying to achieve because I've never achieved it (if that makes any sense)..
That does make sense Sohard. I don't think it's possible for me-as-a-drinker to know what me-as-a-non-drinker would be like anymore than I know what it would be like to play the piano or to speak French. But neither is it necessary to know. IMO it's easy enough to picture your desired future state as someone who doesn't drink and to resolve to bring that state about simply by not drinking, i.e you make a Big Plan. When you do that you will have become a non-drinker and so will know what it's like to be one!