Good piece!!
At work if someone tries to pull me aside to say what they dislike about someone else - I'm distrustful of that person.
I really believe the best way to know how people will treat you is to watch how they treat others, likewise the best way to know how people will talk about you is to take note how they talk about others.
But sometimes I need to remember we do all make mistakes, a second chance isn't a bad thing, as long as second chances don't become a way of life!