I know I had to be willing to change a whole lot of stuff. Not only people, places and things, but how I relate to those things. I mean everything.
Acceptance is step 1. I'm an alcoholic, I cannot drink without massive negative consequences. I hurt myself, the ones I love and potentially complete strangers. I am childish, selfish, and insane when I drink. Period. Drinking is not an option. Period.
I had to have help. So that's what I did. Rehab. A few times. AA, a strong commitment to my physical health and a strong commitment to my daughter. And a strong use of free will. I have choice. I'm not physically addicted right now....if I drink its because I choose to be selfish and childish. For me, that's the truth.
If you want it badly enough, the resources are everywhere to help you.