Thank you for posting these.
Number 3 was especially important for me "The most realistic remedy for substance addiction is planned, permanent abstinence."
Those that were trying to help me actually discouraged me from looking at abstinence as permanent, rather they encouraged me to take it day by day. I already struggled getting through each day as a drinker, so I didn't relish the idea of having to think about this sh*t every day, or any day after I quit. I just wanted to put it behind me and move on. I got lots of pats on the head, and hugs, and big sighs "It just isn't that easy, soberlicious"
Turns out embracing permanent abstinence was just what I needed. and #9 proved to be true as well for me.