I think the root problem is that we all have our own individual path of recovery and if we found that model A helped us it's natural to think it will help others by saying that if they also try model A then they would also experience what we did. But this is not true. Some people will not do well with model A just as some medicines work for some people but not others.
If we could accept that we are not all going to agree because there is no knock down argument in favour of any particular model that is going to convince everyone then we could discuss things more respectfully than we have been doing recently.