Originally Posted by
atalose 
When is your lease up? Often that can be the real catalyst for change and a way to finally separate and go separate ways.
Hi atalose - it doesn't expire until January next year. So we have a way to go yet ... I think I'd need that time to really work out where this is heading anyway. (Plus, it's a great apartment and I was really lucky to get it, so VERY reluctant to give it up - of course will do so if is the only way I can resolve this.)