I would like to welcome you Jake!!
Coming here is going to help you alot! There are so many people in the same situation as you are. The feeling of helplessness is not a good one. But you do not have to feel that way anymore.
These boards and Alanon are going to give you much needed strength!!!!! You can not make your wife get help or admit she has a problem. You are not alone when it comes to pouring the booze and beer down the sink. I think most of us have been there, done that. What you can do is concentrate on YOU! Peace will come one of these days for you.
Take care and my prayers go out to you,
matters