Ovity....one other concept....In a voluntary, intimate relationship such as with a boyfriend....it is wiser to base decisions about commitment on the present realities...present behaviors....rather that on future "potential".
We all have more "potential". Sometimes it is utilized...and, sometimes it is not. That is up to the individual person, as to how they will press forward.
So, I think it is better to consider present, known realities before hitching our wagon to a particular star......