Hi Sarahsays,
I realize I didn't clarify. In the past month, it has come to light that he relapsed on not only alcohol, but pills (idk what kind), and meth. As far as I can tell, since I changed the status of our relationship, he's been more active in recovery, but I know he is smoking weed....trying to get off everything. The only thing I'm going off of is his time spent inside and hanging out versus the time he'd spend outside in his shed when using.
This was a helpful response. I think you're right. For me, recovery was really tough but I threw myself into community (because I enjoy people and connection) and over time I got better. He is definitely an introvert. I want to be with him, but I'm much more attracted to him when he's aware of his weaknesses and actively working to stay healthy.