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Old 03-27-2018, 06:24 AM
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Maybe have a look at this and identify the times you are not speaking adult to adult but going into another ego state.

(Perhaps this is you in child ego state. "I accuse him of things I know aren't true, I put my own defenses up, or I sulk and get really quiet" and also "I take things personal and have difficulty with constructive criticism."

Not saying it is different to anyone else. For example the other my partner walked into the house in really muddy shoes and I immediately went into critical parent mode. However in an ideal world we are trying to get to communicating with everyone on an adult to adult exchange. Maybe look first at the YouTube clip and then have a google round Transactional Analysis.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CdnD0XxK8jM

https://www.counselling-directory.or...-analysis.html

Hope that helps
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