Autumn Mama, I'm so sorry you're going through this, but as wamama said, I think you do know that moving out is a good call. I don't have kids, but I moved out for 10 -days and it was the best thing I did for myself. Being away from the active chaos is so freeing, you deserve that time to work on yourself. I've been listening to podcasts from the recovery show on walks, and those have really helped me. Are you going to Al Anon meetings? That has been a tremendous support as well. The only thing we can do is take care of ourselves and hope that our AH's can do the same. I'm thinking of you and glad you posted here, you will get great support from this group.