I’m weighing in a bit late on this but just say: I attend SMART meetings online, no webcam, no microphone if you don’t want to (and most just type into the chat space while the meeting leader speaks) so it’s truly anonymous... I find them really helpful and there’s no way anyone would ever know who I am! They’re nonjudgmental, laid back and you don’t even have to speak/type if you don’t want to, you can just listen/read. Just a thought!
I admire your bravery SO MUCH for coming forward about your struggles. And although you’ve got a fetus in you, you’re still very much a person too, not just an incubator! So it’s okay that you have struggles and challenges and needs. Reaching out was a brave thing to do, I’m not sure I could have been so strong.