Originally Posted by
hearthealth 
What are you doing for yourself to stop your mind from wandering to the what ifs of his life? Are you staying active in your own life? Going to counselling or Alanon. I would get so focused on him that I didn't realize how much of my day passes me by.
I don't think I fully understood what a codependent was until today. I am conflicted. But as far as staying active in my own life, yes I am. I recently started an MBA program and I've been working very hard on an independent study project. I've started attending trivia nights with a group of new friends. And I stay busy when he's not around. He's still "missing" and yes, I'm worried. But instead of crying and trying to reach out to him, I'm making a wreath for spring to hang on my door and chatting with my best friend about her upcoming wedding.