Originally Posted by
firebolt 
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh - I remember being thoroughly offended when I first got here.....but please, PLEASE keep reading!
And (((HUGS)))) to you - there is no pain quite like loving an addict.
It's not harsh if it is legitimate advice and helpful. I have been offended more than once reading the replies to this thread. People have gone so far as to blame ME.
I am suffering enough guilt and thinking I did this to him that I don't need people saying I'm the cause of his actions. Thank you for understanding that and for giving me firm advice and tough pills to swallow without passing blame.