Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
i think you've "DONE" more than enough to this man and to his parents. and in very short order. i don't think you can really see the chaos that YOU have caused here.....
you "forced" a home detox on him that almost killed him in week one
you took him to the ICU by date #3
you invited him to stay with you , he had a seizure, off to the ER and you signed Emergency Power of Attorney
you brought him back to your home - he got drunk again - he left got a DUI
you then did a Marchman Act and he was sent to a mental institution
and that was just the month of JANUARY
February, AWAY from you, he stayed sober and began to feel better and have a better outlook
March he came to stay with you and in four days was again blind ass drunk and you stuffed him in a cab and sent him on his way.
and now are panicked about his whereabouts and getting his parents all worried and concerned. and you are considering filling a missing person's report and wondering what to do if he shows up during an active search.
you must thrive on drama. but seriously, look at your own actions here and what you have helped bring about in less than three months time.
What I have done? I didn't force a detox. I asked him to quit. He said he'd been through it before and I trusted he knew what he was doing. Ignorance may not be any excuse, but I asked him to go to a detox center and he said no. I can't make him go, they wouldn't keep him if he didn't want to stay.
The seizure was due to complications from the detox meds they gave him at the hospital. He wasn't drinking when that happened. It was a freak occurrence because his body doesn't process medications anymore.
He came down here 4 days ago on his own. He asked if he could. I thought it would be ok as long as he wasn't drinking. He showed up at my door.
All I have ever done is dump out bottle after bottle of bourbon and research rehab facilities. It's been noted that I wasn't and am not knowledgeable of the disease enough to treat it, but I trusted that he knew his body and what he needed to do. He'd been through treatments before and so I assumed he knew best.
If anything, he took advantage of my lack of knowledge and knew that I wasn't able to stop him. He convinced me he was ok and no longer drinking on several accounts. He used me and my home to harbor himself until he could "get away with it" because there is no consequences for disrespecting me and my wishes to keep alcohol out of my home.
So now all these things are my fault because I didn't know what to do? It's my fault because I didn't know how to enforce rules for an addict? It's my fault because HE took advantage of how stupid I am?