Admittedly my ex was out with his second wife again and the day before listed my changes to make before we could be friends again. Mainly a perfect clean house and no drinking or smoking cigarettes.
I am with Zen and Tomsteve on that one. Why would you listen and even be in touch with a married ex who is (in your own words) a creep.
I would suggest that you go no contact with him while you are in early sobriety and focus on your recovery.
You know what they say in AA: First things first.
This Ex drama is only a distraction which gives a rise to your AV and gives you an excuse to cave in to it.
Keep things very simple, your sponsor seems like a very sweet supportive lady so stick close to her.
