You could be my father writing about my mother. My father was a great guy but, in my opinion, he made a mistake in sticking with her. For the last 20 years of his life he was a virtual prisoner unable to do anything without considering her alcoholism.
He couldn't go away for he night because she might well burn the house down.
He couldn't have friends over because of the state she would be in. She was and still is, a nasty belligerent drunk who hates everybody except the person who supplies her booze. She has had two rehabs. Nothing helped. She just got worse until my family and I no longer have anything to do with her.
The friends and family forum would be a good place to go. Alcoholism damages all the people around an alcoholic and can make them just as sick or even sicker. My suggestion is to get some help for your self. She may recover one day. Quite often I hear a story of an alcoholic sobering up after their partner went to alanon and stopped enabling them. But whether she recovers or not, you have a life of your own to live.