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Old 03-01-2018, 03:40 PM
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SheIsBeautiful
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Originally Posted by DontRemember View Post
Tough spot,man. I'd post this in the friends and family section too. I'm from both sides of this 'thing' and it's a bitch on everyone involved. I'll never be a casual drinker again and I'll never be in a relationship where there's a history of addictive behavior. It's messy and there's nothing you can do to help them/us/me. That's a hard thing to accept when getting sober. "I've got to do this by/for myself?" If you offer 'suggestions', that falls on drunk ears as you 'nagging/controlling'. If you don't offer 'suggestions' you "don't care". It's a lose/lose. I'd look into alanon and start taking care of yourself. It's your life and you only have 1.
I definitely think I need to look into some type of counseling for myself as a husband. I believe she would be supportive and I'll probably learn how to better deal with the situation. I'll also check out the other suggested forum.

I'm having a real hard time grasping that I may have to choose between her or myself as I feel I'll be quitting on her and she's such a warm and caring person that really loves me.
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