Old 03-01-2018, 05:04 AM
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Sasha4
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I've never seen my dad drunk.
He is nearly 80 and i'm 44.

I always thought it was because he did not like alcohol.
It turns out he was petrified about turning into a drunk like his father.
He was never going to give alcohol the chance to get a firm grip on him.

My mum berated my alcoholic Grandad.
When we were younger, she called him names, humiliated him, told anyone and everybody the 'supposed' misery he caused.

I can never speak to my mum after 8pm on an evening now.
She is drunk and slurs her words and mixes her booze with tablets.
To me (and the rest of my family) its like nails down a blackboard and we all instantly cut short the phone call. Sometimes we just hang up. She has no history of addiction on er side of the family.

To me it shows that

1. Some of us are dealt bad genetics.
2. You can ALWAYS work on what you are dealt with.

I remember coming here and saying how unfair it was that this could be a genetic, family condition.
It was why me? Why not my brother or sister?

I needed a massive wake up call.
I was being selfish, self pitying and pathetic.

Some genetic diseases are devastating - sickle cell, Marfan, Duchene, cystic fibrosis, fragile X, Tay Sachs, Huntingdon's disease.
They are a truly a death sentence with limited quality of life.

I won't say I am lucky if I have inherited addiction, but there are people who are dealt with far worse than me.
I can work on me.
I can improve on me.
I can manage my illness.
I can have a long and productive life.
I can not follow the path I was meant to.
Other people with diseases above have no choice but to.

This is all said and written with kindness.

I wish you the best xx
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