Hi, MrsLamp-
Glad to see you here asking for help. Doggonecarl has it right- can you join us at least daily and post and commit to your sobriety?
We are a very helpful bunch and full of good advice and support- it's great that your "enabler" is getting sober, but being left behind is not fun- I remember how intimidated I used to be when my friends stopped drinking. If only I had been smart enough to stop with them- fortunately- you ARE that smart and know this is the next step for you.
Please come here and read and post and maybe join the Class of Feb or the 24 Hour Connection threads.
This place got me through it- and lots of other people, too.
You can do it!