Thanks for the feedback. I have spoken to an attorney and based on what she’s told me I am following her direction. I am being nice to him, even when I got the break up text. Telling him thanks for his honesty and I wish him well in his next chapter. I’m watching my spending as not to poke the bear either. So far it is working as he hasn’t changed any financial behavior towards me.
I know my rights but I also know the realities. I’ve got some money put aside and I am trying to pursue a new career.
My grief and shock by his behavior is so difficult to process. I literally don’t know who he is anymore, at all. Wish me luck, I have to see him in a few hours when he comes to pick up our kids for the day. Ugh.
When he told me about the first affair he actually said (he was still in active addiction) that he was having a midlife crisis and if I hadn’t spent so much money on my home business he would have just bought a sports car. Such a jerk.