Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Jewelstar.....one more word of caution...lol....
Do not let yourself become like a china doll...waiting on the shelf for someone to take you down and out you back, at their whim....
Don't sit waiting...looking for an outcome....(and gathering dust)....
Take your power...take your voice...and direct it all toward your own life....
Right now..you are in the beginning stages of grieving....and you are in pain....
But, guess what---you can make a lot of progress in spite of pain....th e pain is going to go away, eventually, anyway.
I call it the short-term pain for the long-term gain.....
Keep reading and learning....
This is so true, been there done that. Went through years of pain, deep deep physical pain and grief. Read Melodie Beattie's Codepenent No More. It was an epiphany.
Now, surprisingly the pain is not there. The is anger sometimes though. Focus on yourself, you cannot control the A, you can only deal with your own stuff and circumstances.