Old 01-19-2018, 02:35 PM
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Bernadette
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The question I have is, if he’s actually following the program, why would he be open to another relationship? I think he may have something he’s hiding again.

All on his side of the street.

This is part of why alcoholism is a family disease and is literally incompatible with a healthy relationship....your questions may be entirely legit and logical, but someone 48 days sober after a long drinking career is still going to be as evasive and unreliable a narrator as he was while drinking. Recovery takes a long time, just being sober doesn't do it, so more will be revealed...you probably won't get any satisfying answers for a long, long time if ever.

Bravo for you cutting through the fog/bs and talking to a lawyer.

And financial difficulties suck for sure, but they can be fixed and are way way less stressful than a front row seat and having to be in a "relationship" with an A. Brighter days are ahead for you for sure!! Keep the focus on you and your own problems.

We codies can very easily slip into that obsession with the A that has derailed us from facing our own sh*t in our lives. We built our own unhealthy habits of NOT dealing with our problems, takes time for us too!!
(((hugs)))

Peace,
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