Hi Jewelstar. I can't speak for your husband, but I know for me early recovery was brutal with my emotions swinging all over the place from one minute to the next. "Emotional sobriety" takes time for someone newly sober to achieve, and it comes in small stages. He may not be sure what he wants right now, or he simply may not be being full honest with you. It may even be an attempt to manipulate you. We alcoholics do that kind of thing, and it doesn't just magically stop when we sober up. It's my hope that you would do whatever you feel you need to do right now to be healthy and take care of yourself. Peace!