Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
if we can't say no at an alanon meeting, where CAN we?
Zaaaaaaaaackley!!
kayleezen - you are doing just fine - keep gong to meetings, keep on trucking, you will feel better soon!
"No." is a complete sentence.
You don't have to offer anyone any explanation or excuse but if it would make you feel less guilty you said it perfectly yourself: "I really want to be the person who says yes and shows up on time, looking great and ready to be of service but that is not the reality for me right now!" And don't add "Sorry!!"
We codies are often super sensitive to what we
assume other people are thinking or feeling. Maybe that lady just has resting bitch face! And if she made a face so what? Her problem.
Hang in there!
Peace,
B