Jewelstar - I am glad you are feeling more centered after prayer and reflection. Please be easy on your self - easier said than done. I know that during this time, I tried to do things "I" enjoyed with friends/family that I could trust ... or even alone. I also documented and saved all of my XAH's texts because there would be apologies one day/accusations the next.
Moving any dialog to text/email regarding items/house/kids is very smart with the uncertainty of court. I never really knew what information would be useful but saved it all just in case. If it was mean/hurtful, I would not respond at all. I only would respond short, precise answers for the essentials.
As they say .... More will be revealed - about him? Yes. Although, I think I revealed more about my good qualities as a human, mother, sister and friend that I had lost along the way.
Sending you hugs and support friend.
GM