Hi Leibss
I dunno but I suspect its not true there are only two choices for you - hanging out with drinking or using mates or sitting at home alone.
I felt the same once - and I kept hanging out with my drinking using mates...and I drank and used....
there a third option - building a new sober life.
I reconnected with old friends my drinking had pushed away and I made new friends by following my hobbies and interests
I went out for coffee dates, movies, cafes - anything that didn't need alcohol involved.
If I wanted change I needed to make changes - there's really not another way.
D