Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
I guess my definition of HFA in my H's case was that he was functioning at work because he would quit drinking early enough in the morning so he'd be sober for work.
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there is nothing functional about that.
I agree, now I can see that but at the time it seemed functional since at least he was sober at work and not putting people's lives in danger and he was "only" drunk at home. It seems so twisted to look at it that way now that I know better. I guess denial and avoidance are very potent force.