Figuring out which events I can manage and which I need to skip has been an ongoing process for me. I feel like I'm always trying to balance out my sobriety and safety...and then on the other hand, my desire to stay connected with people, socialize, etc.
I really agree about having a plan and always having an escape route if it doesn't feel right. I also always talk to my sponsor about it beforehand. I'm not saying I have always followed her direction
but I always learn and grow through talking to her.
For me...it's important to not fear being around alcohol. I just have to ask myself...what is the reason for being at this event? is alcohol central or just one part? do I have a plan? etc
Tough stuff for sure.