Hi Shans: I'm not well-equipped to provide advice to you in your situation, other than to suggest that Al-Anon can be really beneficial for someone in your position. I'd also strongly recommend that you re-post this thread in the friends and family forum, where you will find there are a lot of people who have had similar experiences. Here is a link:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/. Good luck to you! I am sending you my support!